One of the questions I wrestle with as I rapidly approach parenthood is “How do I teach
my children what is good and right?” I believe that this is, of course, a much broader
issue than a simple question with a simple answer. Still, as I weigh my values and my
approach to life, I find that Pluralism is a critical component. The world is vast and there
are many people in it. We can learn much from each other without having to bear the
burden alone or even at all. I want my child(ren) to experience diversity in all its forms
and grow with an open mind and heart to be the adults they want to be. The circle is
wide if we allow it to be.
This is a time in my life when I imagine most people might experience some level of
existential fear. I am the sum of years of events, relationships, hard times and joys. Am I
capable of tipping the scale in the positive direction in the long run? Will my best be
good enough? Learning from varied approaches, philosophies and techniques of
parenting gives me some confidence that I can find a way forward that fits my values. It
also reminds me that I am not alone. I walk in the footsteps of many others who have
lived this experience and have wisdom to share. The circle is wide if we embrace it.
~Ian Van Sice
Ian, I believe children learn a great deal from the examples their parents set for them, whether the examples be good or bad. Unfortunately, my father set a horrible example for his 14 children of racism. I decided early on that I did not want to be like him in regard to that. However, 3 or 4 of my siblings still follow that horrible example he set. I think your children will be fortunate to have parents who will set good examples for them regarding pluralism, and acceptance of all kinds of people.