Elemental Listening

In many mystical traditions, it is commonplace to attach significant meaning to what are known as the four elements: air, fire, water and earth. Each of the four hold literal, metaphorical  and personal meanings.

Air is exactly that invisible atmospheric stuff that we draw into our bodies with every breath. It also refers to other invisible aspects of our lives like thoughts, ideas and decision making. Personally, air involves the act of breathing that we each do instantly engaging with every cell of our bodies. What can listening to air, mean? Listen to the wind, to our breathing, to the sensations of our bodies when we take intentional breaths, to the ideas, thoughts and decisions that we are processing at any given moment.

Fire is the hot stuff of flames that can both help and harm us. Seers and sages of all times have used it to represent our passion, creativity, love and zeal for life. Personally, fire shows up in the electrical impulses of every cell, our body heat, heart beat, and the energy that we put out when we engage people and life. What can listening to fire mean? Listen to the sun shining, to a candle burning, to what our heart yearns for, to our dreams, to the places that love and compassion call us to, to the dangerous places that anger and hatred beckon.

Water is that clear, wet stuff that makes up much of the earth’s surface. The ocean is a metaphor for the mother of all life out of which every living thing on earth has emerged, and it is often used to portray human feelings. About 70 percent of each of our bodies is made up of water. We are water creatures! What can listening to water mean? We can stand before body of water, lake, stream, or ocean, and listen. Listen and notice how a glass of water affects our bodies, or which feelings are running through us today and how they support us or hold us down.

Earth is the most visible of the four elements, the actual ground we walk on and the planet that is our home. Mother Earth represents solid, fertile, abundant, tangible embodied things to us. Our bodies are made of all the same stuff that compose Earth and the stars. What can listening to earth mean? Listen to the soil in our hands as we garden. Notice the shape, shine and presence of stones that we come across. Feel our feet on the ground, our weight in a chair, our contact required with earth with every step we take. Be present in this moment touching the earth and relishing that we are here, now. 

The practice of deep listening is available absolutely everywhere and in any form, literal, metaphorical or personal, that we need to do it. These four elements might just be called the gifts of the Universe. 

~Bob Patrick

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Layers of Listening

We grow up in circumstances where parents, teachers, coaches and other adults demand that we listen to them as they speak words to us.  That can be important, and, if we are honest, that becomes something that we lose interest in quickly. So  many words, and often words that we think we have heard before so we tune into something else. 

There are layers of messages being offered to us that transcend someone saying words at us, all the time, that we can choose to listen to. Here are a few.

Feelings. We can tune in, literally, any moment of any day, to our own feelings and ask: what am I feeling now? What is that feeling associated with? Does it have something for me to pay attention to? Does it suggest some action for me to take? Is there some wisdom wrapped up in that feeling?

A Nagging Inner Sense. This is the sense we have of ourselves often held around our heart or stomach space. It comes without words but with a nagging, often vague, sense of presence. Philosopher, Eugene Gendlin, called this a “felt sense.” We can find it by being still, setting aside all the other things that want our attention, for a moment, and just asking: what’s going on with me right now? It may have some insight for us, a piece of wisdom, an action that needs taking, or, it might just want acknowledgment that this felt sense is at work in us. 

Nature. When was the last time we left a building for any length of time and opened ourselves (heart, mind, feelings, sense of body) to the nature beings around us (trees, animals, plants, the wind, the rain, the sunshine et al)? Do they have a message, a piece of wisdom, a presence they want to share with us?

The Unexpected Human. If we create the intention to be open to other human beings, they will show up. It might be at the grocery store or walking in the park or at the bank or any number of places we find ourselves. They approach our lives in some way, and we have the opportunity to bypass them or be open to them. It might be for a moment or for an hour. What matters is the openness, the listening, that we offer as a gift. 

There are many other layers of listening. In this month of October, we will be exploring them through the practices of deep listening. How are we being invited to practice listening in ways that we have not or do not often engage?

~Bob Patrick

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Benny

Trigger Warning: mention of suicidal ideation/action

Since September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, I want to share an element
of my experience/story, as it relates to the theme of Deep Listening.

Benny, my orange and brown striped tabby cat, is by every definition a deep listener. I
was just writing out emails related to my job training program and talking to myself
about my dreams and aspirations, and he was just laying there looking at me with intent
green eyes. He always listens to what I have to say. Yes, I do talk to him like he
understands me. I think cats (and dogs and other creatures who live their lives with us)
do truly read our emotions and respond accordingly. Anyone who has such creatures in
their homes knows what I am talking about.

There was one very important moment during the pandemic when Benny listened intently to my pain, somehow just knowing I needed to hear from him. Out of deep despair and loneliness like I have never experienced before, I was preparing to end my life when Benny let out a loud cry like he was saying, “stop Mama!” That meow shook me to my core, and I realized that although I was isolated from my fellow humans at that moment, this cat needed me to stay. I am so glad I did. In that moment, I learned that not only am I important, valuable and worthy, I am also needed and wanted. For a while, Benny was the only living being I had to hold, pet and touch. He truly saved my life. My fellow humans also reminded me
that Benny needs me. I am forever grateful for that circle of support.

~Jen Garrison

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    Tiny Dragon

    My grandson is an amazement to me. At 7 months he now has two teeth and is working on a third. He is pulling up and taking very mishap tottering almost walking movements. He picks up toys and shakes them before putting them in his mouth. He has started showing an interest in the food his mom and dad put in front of him. Sometimes the ‘mash’ makes his mouth but often the dogs are the recipients of the globs and crumbs. As a result, he is their new BFF for life. He has found his voice and is enjoying making sounds as loud as he can. He smiles and cuddles and knows when he has been separated from his parents. 

    They come to dinner once a week and the excitement I feel as I anticipate seeing them at the front door is the highlight of the week quite often. I sing to him as often as I can and am waiting for the day he starts to sing back. 

    His middle name is Xiaolong (小龙) which is Chinese for tiny dragon. According to Google “Dragons are complex creatures that make a variety of sounds, including roars, sniffs, shakes, and whimpers”. Right now while he is not saying anything out loud that can be understood in terms of the language I am most comfortable speaking, he is saying a lot. He is making a variety of sounds including roars, sniffs, shakes, and whimpers.

     I am listening deeply, so deeply because what he has to say is very important to me. And what he says now, if I hear it, will help him continue to see me as someone who cares and listens. 

    ~Lydia Patrick

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    The Invitation of the Year

    “You are invited!” If we had mailed out every one of UUCG’s invitations this
    September, we might have supported the U.S. Post Office for quite a while!
    Which invitations do you remember now? Here are a few—and yes, I had to check
    the calendar!

    • To respect the worthiness of all who labor
    • To beautify our property and connect with trees
    • To pour all our summer learnings and all our fresh visions for UUCG into
    • one bowl to serve as our guide this year
    • To join a covenant group
    • To visit the VolunteeRen Faire
    • To gather with Spiral Scouts, the Men’s Group, or to learn the Tarot
    • To listen to immigrants’ voices and expand our Community of Care
    • To visit the Board meeting or join Sharing the Journey
    • To experience the Interfaith Peace Festival or the Autumn Equinox ritual
    • To celebrate belonging and the pagan way
    • To revive our hope and mission through the UU Climate Justice Revival


    Did we respond to each invitation with authenticity? When did we answer, Yes!, or
    Maybe, or Can’t make it this time but will try again, or Sorry, that’s not for me? In
    the process, did we grow a little in curiosity, courage, and compassion? And when
    we did jump in, what transformations did we experience?


    Each month’s theme this year invites us to go deeper with some practice that is
    central to Unitarian Universalism. October’s invitation, “The Practice of Deep
    Listening,” also asks us to respond authentically. Can we listen to our own
    knowing, to our pain and joy, and to the wisdom, pain, and joy of others? What
    transformations will we experience, and how will we grow?
    This is the “Invitation of the Year,” beloveds. May we bring our full selves to the
    practice.


    ~Rev. Nancy Palmer Jones

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    The Guest List

    Recently, I have grown weary from the never ending assault of news updates, sound bites, social media memes, and campaign advertisements. All of it feels like an uninvited, contentious guest in my home, and I wonder, how did all this chaos end up on my mind’s guest list? My goals are to be informed, to vote responsibly and to support social justice. I have the best of intentions. But sometimes I feel paralyzed by the enormity of information available to me at a finger’s touch, and I don’t believe I’m the only one with this dilemma. So, how to balance the needs of both our interior and exterior worlds? I started by accepting different invitations. Take a deep breath and ask yourself:

    Are you exhausted from non-stop media?

    I invite you to experience a media free day.

    Are you overwhelmed by choices?

    I invite you to focus on one, only one, thing at a time.

    Are you unable to finish your to-do list?

    I invite you to accept your human need to rest.

    Are you feeling disconnected?

    I invite you to share time with a friend, a pet, a favorite book.

    Are you frightened by what may happen?

    I invite you to remain grounded here in the present.

    Are you wounded by the rhetoric and actions of hatred?

    I invite you back into the sanctuary of your own heart.

    Around us invitations abound. We are invited into places of fear, and we are invited into places of hope. We are invited to be anxious or comforted. We have choices which invitations we accept. We also have choices about the invitations we extend. Today, right now, may you recognize and embrace the invitations coming from love. It’s ok to say, no thank you, to the others. 

    ~Lisa Kiel

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    Invitation to the Little Things

    Life can be hectic. It seems like you never have any rest from the responsibilities of life. You have bills to pay. You have to get the children off to school. You have deadlines at work.  You have to decide what you are going to cook for dinner. You have to clean. You have to get your children ready for bed. This is when you can finally rest. 

    You turn on the TV and all you see is the worst of this world. You don’t understand anything that is going on. You are angry, scared, sad and frustrated. How can there be so much hate? What happened? Well, I can answer those two questions for you. I don’t know!  I believe most of us can understand all of these feelings and thoughts.

    You wonder if you will ever have peace, love or joy in life again. I can tell you that you probably have this everyday. This is when I invite you to the little things in life. I know that your responsibilities can overshadow them. Maybe, we can slow down just enough to enjoy them. 

    Let’s see if we can remember any. The hug that your child gave you this morning. Noticing that the flowers are blooming. The beautiful blue sky. Watching funny cat videos. Hearing a stupid joke that made you smile. Eating a good meal. Watching your favorite movie. Having a stimulating conversation. Reading a good book. Having a quiet moment. Having a bit of time for your hobby.  Getting into your cozy bed. These are a few little things in life that are so easily overlooked and may give you peace, love and joy. Maybe, we should invite each other to slow down and enjoy the little things in life.

    ~Rita Romero 

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